You’re swiping through the sea of faces on Tinder (or wherever) and suddenly see a familiar face pop up. It’s your ex and now your brain is going at hyperspeed thinking about your next move. Left or Right. What’s the move? I’m firmly planted in one camp and hopefully, by the end of this post, you will be too.
Should you swipe right on your ex on a dating app?
Absolutely NOT. No. Please don’t.
I know you’re probably overthinking it and are convincing yourself that there’s no harm. I would like to argue though that a flick of the wrist in the wrong direction can cause you unnecessary emotional TURMOIL.
This is not a sign from the universe that you’re actually meant to be. You’re seeing him because of an algorithm, babe. He’s just geographically close to you.
If you’re debating this much on swiping right on him, your head is probably telling you it’s a dumb move but your heart is screaming to go for it.
Sometimes we have to let logic win to protect ourselves from hurting our own feelings. You are on a dating app to find someone new, not reconnect with a person with who you already know you’re incompatible.
Why You Shouldn’t Swipe Right on Your Ex
If this is a guy you were really into and are upset that it didn’t work out, don’t talk to him. It may rekindle feelings and make it even harder to get over him.
A major part of getting over someone is letting go of that little hope you have that you’ll get back together. Talking to him is a step backward and will probably just hurt your feelings.
You guys are both on a dating app. He is actively looking for someone new and you are too! So, don’t get distracted by the past. Sometimes God is just testing you to see if you’re still stupid.
Don’t fail the test by opening up an avenue for your lame ex to come back into your life. Things didn’t work out for a reason and I’m a firm believer of not playing with fire.
There’s no reason to communicate anymore after a breakup, especially if it was a painful one. No need to catch up or see if his annoying co-worker is still annoying. Curiosity killed the cat, girl! Keep moving forward and swipe to the left, to the left (Beyonce voice).
Focus on being the best version of yourself and leave dead-weight in the past.
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Ok, if you’re still here, I’m gonna assume you’re still thinking about the possibilities.
Let’s overthink things together, girl. I got you.
What happens if you swipe right on your ex?
Let’s go through the possibilities…
You swipe right and you don’t match.
That means he hasn’t seen your profile yet and now you’re left waiting to see if he’ll match with you later on. We both know you’re gonna be in your feelings if he doesn’t match with you. Many guys say they blindly swipe right on everyone so he quite purposely did not match with you if you never match.
Or he swipes right on you later on just to see if you swiped right and now he has the satisfaction of knowing you swiped on him. Ew. No. If he’s a petty bitch, he may even unmatch you right after matching so you’ll never know he also swiped right. Conclusion. Swiping on your ex = hurt feelings.
You swipe right and you do match.
You guys match and now you’re thinking “should I message him??” Girl, stop. Never put yourself in a position to be left on read by an ex or really any man for that matter. There’s literally never a reason to do that. It’s embarrassing.
So, you don’t reach out to him and he messages you first. You have an awkward conversation about how you are before it fizzles out leaving you confused or annoyed or sad. Feeling bad is not worth that 7-message exchange!
Now, what I’m assuming is your best case scenario…he reaches out and suggests you guys meet up or he tells you that he misses you. All I’m gonna say is that the perfect scenario you have going in your head is very, very unlikely to happen. You know boys can never get it right! That’s why you guys aren’t together anymore.
Truthfully, there is really no point in matching with an ex unless you’re really trying to get back together with him. And is that really what you wanna do?
Breakups are a complicated subject and relationships end for so many different reasons. But I’m gonna assume that you guys just were not good for each other at the end of the day. That said, don’t open yourself up to be hurt by the same guy again. Giving him access to you, even on a dating app, is NOT the move, babe.
Judge his profile pics and his poorly written bio, swipe left and keep it pushing. Don’t go back to Mr. Wrong when you’re trying to find Mr. Right!
Chase your glow,
P.S. You know you shouldn’t swipe right on that dude or you wouldn’t be googling it lol 😉