In the early stages of talking, it’s never a great feeling to be left on read for hours. All these thoughts start popping into your head. Why is he ignoring me? What’s he doing? He’s probably texting someone else. But what if he actually died?? Lol…
His long response time could mean something or maybe it doesn’t and he’s just away from his phone. Here are some possible explanations for why your guy left you on read.
He’s Actually Busy
Maybe things have picked up at work or something is taking up his time more than usual keeping him away from his phone. Take note of his texting patterns before you jump to the worst conclusion. Does he not get back to you from 9-5 but then text you a lot in the evening? That could really just mean he prioritizes his work and stays off his phone during work hours.
Truthfully, I don’t think anyone should be too busy to be able to tell you that they’re busy. Us younger folk are glued to our phones so the “I was busy” excuse does not hold much weight. It doesn’t take much to send an “I’m gonna be busy. Ttyl!” text and not leave you hanging.
Don’t start overthinking things and putting yourself into a mood. When he finally replies casually ask him what he’s been up to and see if he gives a reason for your long wait. It may be nothing!
However, if he leaves you on read all the time with no explanation when he returns, there is definitely something going unsaid. Imma keep it real with you, the odds are not in your favor.
He is not that interested in you so he doesn’t feel compelled to text you back right away. I’ll admit that I can be that person sometimes when I’m just texting a person because I’m bored.
You know what I mean!
Think about the difference between texting a guy you really like and the guy you drunkenly gave your number to that you’re politely entertaining. You’re in no rush to get back to them because you don’t care that much.
When a guy likes you, he will text you back within an hour or two. If he’s making you wait 12 hours for a response then he’s not very into the conversation or you.
I won’t say that he doesn’t like you at all, but he certainly does not like you enough!
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Guys make it very clear when they want a girl around. They are biologically programmed to pursue the women they want! So if he’s not it says a lot.
That may hurt to hear but girl, that’s a blessing in disguise for you because you still have choices.
You can choose to keep texting him and be hurt by his apathy or you can cut that mofo off and find someone who will happily text you and give you the attention you damn right deserve.
By ignoring you for hours, he is telling you everything you need to know. He’s not the one for you. He could also just be playing mind games which is just another red flag to end communication.
Instead of having the decency to tell you he’s no longer interested, he is just talking to you less and less until you take the hint.
This is the easy way out but ghosting and just fading out has become a normalized part of modern dating. It sucks but it is what it is. Instead of being upfront with you, he is purposely acting in a way that makes you not want to text him.
If you’re like me you can address it and just ask him if he no longer wants to text. I did this with a guy I was texting because he started taking super long to reply and when he did it was a 2-word response. I don’t have time or patience for these kinds of games.
Your second option is to not say a thing to him, block his number, and cut your losses. That’s what he wanted anyway but was too chicken shit to say so… Either way, there are some things, I don’t want you to do when left on read.
Girl, don’t chase that man. I am reaching an unlevel of unbothered that I never thought I could achieve. It used to really hurt my feelings (and occasionally still does) when a guy would just randomly lose interest in me.
But then I started seeing it as him not wasting my time rather than a personal attack on my looks, personality, and soul. Lmao ok, I’m being dramatic but rejection can hurt!
When we start feeling rejected, we tend to try to overcompensate to win back a person’s approval. My advice is to match their energy. Don’t give someone 100% when they are only giving you 10%.
Instead of focusing on why this guy isn’t texting you back, cut that man out of your life. If it’s this early on in your relationship and he’s already making you unhappy, he isn’t worth pursuing any further.
Don’t desperately double or triple text him. Don’t check your phone every 3 seconds to see if he replied. Don’t let it bother you that he’s pulling away. It just means he isn’t your person.
Go live your life instead! Don’t give someone else so much power over your thoughts and feelings. Especially not some new guy you just started talking to.
YOU are the MAIN CHARACTER of your life.
You are the prize! If a guy doesn’t want to put in the effort, then he just doesn’t see your worth. So, let him go and stay open for the right guy to come into your life! #boybye
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